Serious hair damage problem......is oil usage necessary?need hlp!!!?

i used to apply hair oil on daily basis(i.e. no washing hair after oil massage) when i was a kid. but now i don't really lyk having oily hair always.....i hv long and silky hair bt nw i've stopped using oil daily and i just use it on weekends and then wash them.Bt because of dat i'm having serious HAIR FALL(never had such before),,,SPLIT ENDS,plus a bit dandruff!!!!and there is not the same shine in my hair as it used to be.they've becum rough! I find it really disgusting! i mean either bear that oil on your hair always or simply witness damn serious hair damage!!! wat should i do???it doesn't look good hving oily hair always...though not very much bt i'm grown up nw! and neither can i let my long,siky hair get damaged so drastically!!!!i did not use to care this much before bt now it can't be ignored!!!!!!! pls pls pls hlp me,,,,wat should i do, pls suggest somthing very effective because of wich i can hv healthy hair without hair fall,split ends or dandruff( and definitely no hair oil on daily basis) :-)